You love your friends, so ending a relationship with one of them can be as difficult as breaking it off with a partner. If a friend is hurtful or a constant annoyance to you, it may be best for your sanity if you cut the person loose, Florence Isaacs, author of "Toxic Friends, True Friends," told Women's Day. The magazine shares a few tips on when and how to end an established friendship that isn't working.
Ex-BFFs, society girls Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie. It just wasn't working out... - If you're not sure if permanently parting from your friend is the right thing for you, make a list of the good and negative products of the relationship. If the bad outweighs the good, then it's time to take action, Isaacs says.
- A good first step is to be slower at returning calls and messages, says Andrea Bonior, a psychology professor at Georgetown University and author of "The Friendship Fix." This gradual approach will only be successful, however, if the other person realizes what you're doing.
- Although you may be tempted to avoid confrontation by just disappearing, this prevents you from having closure, Susan Shapiro Barash, author of "Toxic Friends: The Antidote for Women Stuck in Complicated Friendships," told Women's Day. You should gently tell your friend the problems you see in your relationship, which could end the friendship or repair it if she apologizes for her behavior.
Paris's next move was to look for a BFF replacement through reality TV. Paris Hilton's My New BFF - It's harder to end a friendship when you're both part of a larger circle of friends, so form an alliance with others who share your feelings, Bonior says. You can then talk to your friend about her behavior as a group. If no one feels the way you do, let them know you are fine with the rest of the group staying friends with her - even if you're not. That way, you can keep your friendships with the rest of the group.
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